In my last blog I responded to the first of two questions submitted to Your Pocket Sexpert ™, “Is it common for men to have an increased sex drive as they age?” In it, I indicated that desire to have sex fluctuates over time, sometimes people want it more, and sometimes want it less. There […]
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How Can I Prevent Gagging When I Give A Blow Job?
According to a 2014 study in the Journal of Oral & Maxillofacial Research, approximately 74% of people possess a gag reflex. This reflex ranges from minor to intense enough to interfere with everyday activities. It can be caused by something physical like something in the mouth or a nasty smell. Or can be caused by […]
Which Taboo Acts Would Bring the Most Pleasure for My 50+ Wife if She Would Only Try It?
I really appreciate this question, as a sexual health educator, sex coach, and as a wife. Taking such an interest in your wife’s pleasure is the first step, and you already have that covered. What I’m about to say next, though, may seem like a letdown. I promise you though, I will explain why moving […]
How Can I Get my Partner to Open Up About Their Kinks?
If there is one thing that has the potential to make a person clam up quicker than butter melts on hot toast, it’s conversations about sex and kinks. Many people have never had the opportunity to learn what healthy conversations about sex look like. Most experienced a lack of proper sexual health education, sex being […]
How to Best Enjoy Intimacy and Sex Being Genderfluid?
Before I dive into a response for this question, I would like to be fully transparent in that I am not a genderfluid person, nor am I part of the LGBTQIA+ community. The lens in which I approach this topic is as a cisgendered, heterosexual, clinical sexologist. While I am unable to speak from personal […]
How Do You Increase Your Drive to Match Your Partner?
Let me start off with saying that it is completely normal for partners to not desire sex as much, or as little, as each other. One of the most common concerns that my fellow sex coaches and I encounter with our clients is mismatched desire. It’d make my job so much easier if there were […]
Is Oral Sex Evil or Dirty?
The short answer to this question is no, it isn’t evil or dirty. Oral sex can be quite pleasurable and a wonderful sexual experience. It is one of many ways to experience, and enjoy, sex. Depending on your background, you may have been told that there is one, and only one, way to have sex. […]